Couples Therapy

+ Impacts of Purity Culture

Purity culture is a set of rules, ideas, and strict expectations based upon a gender binary and other stereotypes of sexuality and intimacy. Ultimately, purity culture is rooted in unrealistic and unhealthy expectations regarding sexual experiences and preferences. It is performance-based rather than pleasure-based. It doesn’t incorporate consent and results in a lack of safety.

Purity culture compromises one’s ability to explore, determine, and engage in sexual and intimate behaviors that feel authentic. It uses shame to control behavior and belief, while often disrupting healthy sexual development. In couples therapy, we help you navigate the impacts of religious or spiritual indoctrination from purity culture that has made your physical and sexual intimacy challenging.

The benefit of couples therapy when working with purity culture is that you can develop safety in your relationship to the point where you feel comfortable expressing yourselves freely as sexual beings. The goal in a safe, loving, sexually intimate relationship is not just to have an orgasm, but to connect to one another on a deep and meaningful level. A level that honors consent, safety, and autonomy. We want to help you find pleasure and intimacy together in a multitude of ways through couples therapy.

+ Disconnection

We want you to feel supported in couples therapy to strengthen your emotional and spiritual connection to each other. Often when couples feel disconnected from one another, there has been a breakdown in communication, felt safety, feelings of acceptance and support, or significant transition and change.

We’ll support each of you on how you can continue learning and discovering your partner, their depth, and uniqueness. You’ll find ways to celebrate each other’s authentic selves. You don’t have to sacrifice pieces of yourself to be in a healthy and connected relationship.

You can be authentically who you are while also connecting emotionally, spiritually, and physically to another human being. The benefits of couples therapy for those who feel disconnected from their partners is that you learn new ways to connect with each other, restore a sense of partnership, and learn to prioritize one of the most important relationships in your life.

+ Intimacy

At NobleTree we support you and your partner to increase physical and emotional intimacy. The goal is to feel a multi-faceted depth of connection to one another. In therapy for couples, we want you to feel that your relationship is one where you can be vulnerable and transparent. To do this, you need safety.

The benefits of couples therapy for those working on intimacy are that through intentional work you can find increased safety in the relationship and work on the relationship in a supportive, judgment-free space. Developing a relationship where you can be seen, accepted, and known is the ultimate goal.

+ Infidelity

Infidelity is a painful reality that can occur within relationships. The breach of trust and the pain related to expectations and commitments unmet in the relationship can cause significant trauma. Infidelity can refer to a physical or emotional affair. Relationships where infidelity has occurred often endure and experience substantial pain, grief, and anger. In these cases, couples therapy can be of great support.

We help couples regain a sense of trust and honesty. The important thing is direct communication and finding safety in the relationship. We want to help you both honor the trauma of infidelity, the experience of betrayal, and explore ways to repair and restore trust.